That Time 26-Year-Old Edgar Allan Poe Married His 13-Year-Old Cousin

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As if his stories weren’t occasionally disturbing enough, it turns out Edgar Allan Poe’s love life was more than a little creepy as well.

Creepy Courtship

Poe met his bride-to-be, Virginia Clemm, when she was 7 years old, and he was 20, shortly after his mother’s death in 1829. Their parents, his natural father (David Poe) and her mother (Maria Clemm), were siblings, and Poe had moved into the Clemm home briefly before his time at West Point was to begin. Being so close in time to the death of his mother, some authors have opined that he transferred his feelings for his mother to his Aunt Maria, and later to his cousin.

Regardless, it appears that Poe and Virginia quickly became friends, and she even helped him woo one of her neighbors, Mary Devereaux. It is reported that at one point, Virginia obtained “a lock of Devereaux’s hair to give to Poe.”

That fell through and at some point, Poe’s amorous eye turned to Virginia. By 1835, people had noticed his interest in the young girl. In fact, Virginia’s half-sister’s husband, Neilson Poe, had even offered to “take her in and have her educated in an attempt to prevent the girl’s marriage at such a young age.” Outraged and fearing he would lose the pubescent love of his life, in August 1835, Poe offered to take in and provide for Virginia’s mother and the remainder of the family, in exchange for the marriage. His arguments and ardor must have prevailed because: “Poe secretly married Virginia . . . on September 22, 1835. He was 26 and she was 13, though she is listed on the marriage certificate as being 21.”

There is some dispute as to whether or not this secret ceremony ever occurred. Regardless, the two were married in public on May 16, 1836.

Marital Bliss

Many Poe apologists have claimed that the marriage between Virginia and Poe: “May have been celibate, with the two living together more as brother and sister, in any case there is no evidence that she ever became pregnant.”

In support of this theory, some point to the title character in Annabel Lee, a “maiden,” whom many say was reflective of Virginia.

This seems unlikely, however, for several reasons, including her rare beauty: “She had large black eyes, and a pearly whiteness of complexion, which was a perfect pallor. Her pale face, her brilliant eyes, and her raven hair gave her an unearthly look. One felt that she was almost a disrobed spirit…”

In addition, Virginia was devoted to Poe. She kept a picture of him under her pillow, and even wrote this acrostic poem for him as a Valentine’s Day gift in 1846:

Ever with thee I wish to roam –

Dearest my life is thine.

Give me a cottage for my home

And a rich old cypress vine,

Removed from the world with its sin and care

And the tattling of many tongues.

Love alone shall guide us when we are there –

Love shall heal my weakened lungs;

And Oh; the tranquil hours we’ll spend,

Never wishing that others may see!

Perfect ease we’ll enjoy, without thinking to lend

Ourselves to the world and its glee –

Ever peaceful and blissful we’ll be.

Despite Virginia’s adoration, Poe apparently had a wandering eye, and at one point it landed on Frances Sargent Osgood. The two exchanged letters that, at the very least, expressed an interest. This was poorly received by a third lady, Elizabeth F. Ellet, who seemingly also had a crush on Poe (who wouldn’t?) and made a fuss. A scandal ensued that involved allegations of indiscretions and ultimately to rumors that Poe was “subject to acts of lunacy.” Although Virginia was aware of, and unconcerned with, Poe’s flirtations, the nasty scandal affected her deeply.

Virginia’s Death 

Beginning in January 1842, Virginia had developed tuberculosis, then known as consumption. Her health progressively worsened, and by early in 1846, she had told a friend: “I know I shall die soon; I know I can’t get well; but I want to be as happy as possible, and make Edgar happy.”

On her deathbed, some claim Virginia blamed her demise on the jealous Mrs. Ellet, stating, “Mrs. E. had been her murderer.” Virginia died on January 30, 1847.

Immortal Virginia

Whatever else you can say about Poe, he apparently loved Virginia deeply. According to one observer: “He used to cry over her grave every day and kept it green with flowers.”

It appears that he channeled his love for Virginia into his work. In addition to the dead maiden in Annabel Lee, she is also believed to be the subject of the poem, Ulalume, as well as the “rare and radiant maiden . . . Lenore” of The Raven. Virginia may also have been the inspiration for Eleonara, The Oblong Box and Ligeia:

I saw that she must die . . . There had been much in her stern nature to impress me with the belief that, to her, death would have come without its terrors; –but not so. Words are impotent to convey any just idea of the fierceness of resistance with which she wrestled with the Shadow. I groaned in anguish at the pitiable spectacle . . . of her wild desire for life…

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Bonus Fact:

  • Although many people believe that girls as young as 13 commonly married in the 18th and 19th centuries, this is not the case. According to census microdata crunched by the University of Minnesota’s IPUMS, the mean age for marriage for women born between 1821 and 1830 (Virginia was born in 1822) was 22.6 years, and among those who ever got married (which was over 90% of the female population in those days), only 12.6% were married by the time they were 19.
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7 comments

  • Many Poe apologists have claimed that the marriage between Virginia and Poe: “May have been celibate, with the two living together more as brother and sister, in any case there is no evidence that she ever became pregnant.”

    In support of this theory, some point to the title character in Annabel Lee, a “maiden,” whom many say was reflective of Virginia.

    This seems unlikely, however, for several reasons, including her rare beauty: “She had large black eyes, and a pearly whiteness of complexion, which was a perfect pallor. Her pale face, her brilliant eyes, and her raven hair gave her an unearthly look. One felt that she was almost a disrobed spirit…”

    So was the character in Annabelle Lee not based on Virginia because Virginia had a rare beauty? Was Annabelle Lee unattractive?

  • THANKS FOR THE INTERESTING ASIDE ON POE.

  • Moderns appear to have forgotten that:

    a. before the advent of antibiotics, most people died VERY young of (what would today be considered) trivial medical problems.

    b. before the modern medicine, about 25% of women died in childbirth.

    c. before the mechanization of agriculture (about 1914 at earliest) – no imagined that there is a stage of life called “teenage”.

    d. before the advent of modern birth control, a newly-married woman would be pregnant within a few months. Pregnant women & mothers of infants/toddlers NEED financial support from a WELL established man. OR: a socialist government, which is just a proxy for tax-transferring resources from men to women.

    e. Feminist thinking always disappears immediately during a house fire or an invasion.

    • Women weren’t married that young even in those times where ppl died young. The median age for marriage for a woman in the 18th and 19th centuries are 22 years old. Women would be taken care of and prepared for marriage all the way until 20 then would marry a WELL established man. It’s like you didn’t read the article or do your research. Instead you blindly try to defend a grown men taking advantage of a child. Please have no children. And I don’t see how feminism ties in to this? Does it only take a feminist to recognize that a relationship with a 13 year old is wrong when you are 27?

  • as poe was born January 19, 1809 and the wedding was May of 1836 it would make him 27 please fact check before posting incorrect facts