{"id":12533,"date":"2012-09-04T23:00:10","date_gmt":"2012-09-05T06:00:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.todayifoundout.com\/?p=12533"},"modified":"2012-09-05T14:38:23","modified_gmt":"2012-09-05T21:38:23","slug":"why-do-women-go-to-the-ladys-room-in-groups","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.todayifoundout.com\/index.php\/2012\/09\/why-do-women-go-to-the-ladys-room-in-groups\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Do Women Go to the Lady’s Room in Groups?"},"content":{"rendered":"
Byron asks: Why do women always seem to like to go to the bathroom in groups?<\/div>\n

\"Now<\/a>Why do women go to the ladies room in groups?\u00a0 You might as well ask “What did John Lennon see in Yoko Ono? If Wile E. Coyote could afford all those Acme gimmicks, why didn’t he just order a pizza or Chinese food instead of chasing the road runner?\u00a0 How exactly does the posi-trac rear end on a Plymouth work?\u00a0 … It just does.”<\/p>\n

My friend, you are treading into dangerous territory trying to understand the inner workings of the female brain. Yes, some questions perhaps should not be answered.\u00a0 Never-the-less, you asked, so I will attempt to answer.<\/p>\n

It starts with the difference in the way men and women use the restroom.\u00a0 As a guy who has been a guy for over 50 years, I can easily tell all you women and girls what the men’s room is like.\u00a0 Usually, it’s like a morgue.\u00a0 We use it almost purely for functional action, to relieve ourselves, and maybe, but not always, we’ll take a quick look in the mirror and we just get the heck out and go back out into the real fun world.\u00a0 We go to the urinals, unzip, and look straight ahead with a steadfastness gaze that a marine drill sergeant would shed a tear over its perfection. If more than one of us happens to go in together, our conversations are limited, as we much prefer kibitzing outside in the open world.<\/p>\n

Oh sure, once in a long while, there will be a line (during a Dodger game or a Paul McCartney concert and the like) and we’ll chat in said line, but this is rare for guys. There is usually not a bathroom line for us.\u00a0 And as a granite-bound rule- we’d rather go to the men’s room alone!<\/p>\n

Now, let’s get to your specific question, which pertains to mankind’s biggest mystery- women!\u00a0 As I am not a woman, and have never claimed to be an expert on the fairer sex, I will simply sum up answers I’ve found given by women, many of which come from a fantastic book by David Feldman, How Does Aspirin Find a Headache?<\/a>\u00a0 David Feldman is obviously not a woman, but in the previously mentioned book, he himself gathered many responses by various women on this topic.\u00a0 I will also use some quotes from women on “Why Women Go to the Restroom in Groups” from You Just Don’t Understand<\/a>, by Deborah Tannen.\u00a0 If there are any explanations missed, please ladies post them in the comments below.<\/p>\n

(Editor’s note: If you enjoy Today I Found Out<\/a>, you’ll love pretty much every one of Feldman’s books, which are basically Today I Found Out<\/a> in book form.\u00a0 You can check out his whole catalog here: David Feldman’s Imponderables Series<\/a>)<\/p>\n

Reason #1: To Kill Time:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Unlike men’s rooms which reflect the fact that men have a lot less to do in the restroom than women and men are all about getting in and out fast, women’s restrooms quite frequently feature lines (of course, compounded by the fact that they like to go in groups).\u00a0 Regardless of the cause, these frequent lines are boring to stand in alone.\u00a0 Having someone to chat to while you wait is a great way to kill time.<\/p>\n

Reason #2: Hair\/Make-up:<\/strong><\/p>\n

While women can look in the mirror and see themselves just fine, they generally like to get a second opinion on how they’re looking.\u00a0 As such, it’s helpful to bring along a wing-woman to bounce such questions off of.\u00a0 As Kelli Zimmerman noted, “My date isn’t going to tell me something doesn’t look right. My girlfriend will.” Or, as Joan Cartan-Hansen said, “Women seem to need confirmation that they look okay. After fixing your face in the bathroom mirror, it’s nice to turn to your companion for a quick approval.”<\/p>\n

Reason #3: Female Bonding:<\/strong><\/p>\n

This is closely related to the “Kill Time” explanation, but extends beyond the waiting line.\u00a0 As Mary Roush stated, “Where better to have conversational intimacy than in a woman-only restroom? The task (going to the restroom) is simply the secondary vehicle for the primary work (of women) in life: relationship maintenance.”<\/p>\n

Karen Pierce further notes,\u00a0 “I’ve had better discussions fixing my make-up than I’ve ever had talking to my boyfriends.” (Karen, you should find better boyfriends.) \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

And finally, Charles T. Galloway (yes, a guy, but one demonstrating amazing perspicacity), “There are certain subjects that both males and females seem to regard as appropriate for discussion when the other sex is absent, but unsuitable when they are present. The ladies’ trip to the washroom takes the place of the Old Victorian habit of the ladies withdrawing from the dining room to “leave the gentlemen to their cigars”, so that these conversations can take place. What the ladies are doing in there so long is engaging in ‘girl talk’.”<\/p>\n

Reason #4: Men Talk About Boring\/Stupid Things:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Linda Lassman notes, “Another reason women leave together is because they often think the things men say are really stupid, but they don’t want to cause hurt feelings or arguments by saying so. Going to the restroom in groups allows them to talk about things that actually interest them, to discuss the same topics and have their opinions listened to, and to laugh at the men they’re with without worrying how the men will feel.”<\/p>\n

Reason #5: Facilitate Conversations Outside of the Restroom:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Women leaving to go to the restroom in groups does this in two ways.\u00a0 First, if just one person goes to the bathroom at once, that person is left out of the loop in the current conversation.\u00a0 If all the women leave, it pauses the current conversation and makes sure no one gets left out and avoids the annoying potential problem of having to repeat some bit of conversation or a story or the like when the person gets back.<\/p>\n

The second way it facilitates conversation is noted by Jennifer Talarico, “When we are in the restroom for extended periods of time, the topic of conversation is undoubtedly the men we are with. As we know, the men are back at the table discussing us as well. Sometimes the purpose of our escape is so the men can get to know one another, especially when we girls have been friends for a while and the guys have just recently met.”<\/p>\n

(Man’s note: Sorry to disappoint, but the conversations after you leave almost never have anything to do with you, particularly if the guy(s) around me are people I know well.\u00a0 Further, as a matter of personal opinion, if the guy(s) I’m left with are not people I know much or at all, I’m not loving the fact that you just left me to toil away in awkward conversation for the curiously lengthy amount of time you’re spending in the lady’s room.) \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

This all brings up the inevitable follow up question, “Why do women take so long in the restroom?”<\/p>\n

Obviously the lengthy line and propensity to gab noted above are two of the causes of why women take so long in the restroom. \u00a0Ladies rooms are also almost always “nicer” spaces than men’s, some even including couches and large seating areas, among other facilities to make women quite comfortable in case they wish to lounge around for lengthy periods of time.<\/p>\n

(Editor’s note: While they are nicer in terms of amenities, as someone who worked as a janitor in college for a major one stop shopping store and before that for the U.S. Park’s service as a “maintenance engineer” (a.k.a. janitor who also does lawn work and basic repair), I can say that women’s restrooms at the end of the day are quite possibly the filthiest places on the planet, taking about 4-5 times longer to clean and being far more gag-worthy during said cleaning than even the dirtiest men’s room or even outhouse I’ve ever encountered.<\/p>\n

Someday, I may do a post on some of the more retching women’s restroom’s cleaning experiences I’ve had.\u00a0 As a small preview to that glorious day, I’ll just say for one of them, picture a spherical basketball sized lump of corn studded poop in an otherwise perfectly pristine potty and wonder, “How? What? Why?”\u00a0 Then contemplate how you came to this place in your life and if there wasn’t perhaps some point in the past where you went wrong and that just maybe you should reevaluate your decision making paradigm. Then, of course, realize it’s your job to make said ball of fecal matter go away somehow.)<\/p>\n

(Now back to the question at hand.) There are of course actual practical reasons why ladies take so long in the restroom.\u00a0 Here are a few explanations from said ladies:<\/p>\n